Talking to Your Kids About the Election
It’s that time of the year again – the time where the commercials are nonstop, the debating is never-ending, the chatter is everywhere you go, and there is a ton of misinformation all around. That’s right folks, it’s election season.
Some adults may think that this does not really involve kids and teens, they should be left out of the conversations, spared from all of the drama, or allowed to just be kids. In some cases, they are right! But there are also some kids who want to understand their parents’ point of view, hear about your values, and be informed about the election. The fact of the matter is, they will likely overhear political talk at family dinners, see infographics and videos on social media, and even partake in discussions in school with their peers.
These children and adolescents who are more curious by nature, or perhaps have an interest in politics, might be coming to you with questions about how to vote, who to vote for, and what your vote stands for.
If this is your kid, we’ve got some advice to help you decide how much you would like to share and these conversations go more smoothly.
Start off by displaying respect for all voting parties.
Explain to your child that everyone has their own perspective and points of view and in their own eyes they are doing the right thing.
Explain that everyone has different backgrounds, experiences, and values to uphold.
Understanding different points of view is important when it comes to disagreeing with others without insulting them.
Breakdowns of general ideology behind each party can also encourage your children to have independent beliefs and values.
Try not to be extremely biased toward your own political party.
Encourage them to be curious and interested in something bigger than them.
Don’t assume your kids are too young to understand or be interested in political issues.
Welcome their questions; their interest on the subject is healthy.
Kids and teens are naturally curious individuals, and are in the autonomy and exploration stages when it comes to their identity.
You might be surprised by how much they know, have heard, have thought about, and want to know more about when it comes to politics.
Politics do affect them too, and a certain (age appropriate) level of literacy should be praised.
Talk about the right to vote and how to register.
Discuss how everyone over 18 can have a voice in our country and how this is such a positive and fortunate thing for us.
Try to find YouTube videos that explain the voting process (there is a really good SchoolHouse Rock about voting that kids love!)
Pictures and picture books can be helpful for your extra young and curious by nature kids.
Even though they are too young to vote, if they are passionate about certain issues that are politically charged, look into ways that they can help at their age, whether it be in school, in the community, or by joining clubs.
Ask them about their interests, passions, and personal views and then help them research the different candidates policies on said issues.
Reassure them and talk it out if they are concerned or anxious about certain issues.
Your kids and teens may become worried about certain issues and how they are currently or will directly affect them, such as racial issues, LGBTQ issues, environmental issues, and small business laws.
It’s understandable if they are feeling confused, concerned, or uncertain, and don’t brush this off because “they are too young to understand.”
Instead give them reassurance and validation; make sure they feel heard, as this is often all kids and teens need.
If they are looking for a more solution focused response, try to reassure them by explaining how local politics and community members work hard to make sure they are protected, even if they do not prefer whoever is in office on a country wide level.
Prepare your kids and teens for disagreements and differing opinions from peers.
Kids may hear peers talking about certain political candidates, oftentimes mirroring what their parents are saying or doing.
Some children and adolescents may become very assertive about their political views, especially if they see it as the “right” or “more responsible” point of view, and in turn they may view others as wrong and irresponsible.
Try to encourage your kids to listen with empathy and accept other people’s views by teaching them that they do believe they are doing what is right.
Make sure your kid is learning factual information to weed out false statements and fear mongering.
Discuss post-election responses.
Sometimes, unfortunately, tensions get really high and the response from unhappy parties can be very emotional and violent.
Ensure your child’s safety and let them know that even if there are rallies, protests, and other outrage responses to whomever is voted in, you will protect them.
Explain that freedom of speech is a right in our country, and people are allowed to voice their disappointment and grievances as they see fit.
Be willing to engage in conversation with kids about what some of these post-election responses might look like so that they can manage their own expectations.
Explain any outrage they may be witnessing by giving their point of view and what they are so upset about, and how they may feel they will be negatively impacted by future laws put in place, while also expressing to them that violence is not the correct way to get your point across.
Although talking about politics with your kids may be difficult, or it may seem daunting, your kids very well may be confused, curious, and wanting information from you. It is totally understandable to not want to bring a political discussion up to your otherwise blissfully ignorant kids and teens; absolutely let them be kids and don’t add to their stress. However, if your kids or teens are bringing it up to you, it might be best to respectfully explain all points of view, reassure them, and engage in an educational and informative conversation with them. Remember, you are your child’s closest role model. How you handle difficult conversations truly sets the tone for them, and teaches them how to have empathy and tolerate other people’s opinions and beliefs.
If you feel like your child or adolescent could use some more support, whether they are overly anxious about politics, struggling with arguing with peers, or having a hard time tolerating others’ perspectives, feel free to reach out today!
Our therapists would be happy to have a free, 15-minute phone consultation to see how we can support your child and family.
